About Kyle

Me and my MUCH better half, Debbi

Me and my MUCH better half, Debbi

About Kyle . . .

Kyle Hargrove is a Licensed Professional Counselor/Supervisor located in Fort Worth, Texas. He has been in private practice for more than 20 years, and is the owner/operator of Freedom Texas Coaching and Counseling. Kyle is a licensed and ordained minister, writer, and has spoken at family and men’s conferences from coast to coast. He is the founder of Stonegate Center, a 90-Day Residential Drug and Alcohol Treatment Center in the Fort Worth area.

There’s really not much that’s all that special about me . . .

It was probably about a decade ago when I realized that statement in all its glory. At about that time some of life’s recent experiences taught me that regardless of who or what anyone ELSE is, and regardless of how much I may have built MYSELF up, I’m just one life circumstance from being just like anyone else. Although my pride took a ding in the process, it was ultimately a positive and humbling experience that gave my life a different direction altogether.

I’m flawed.

Period.

The sooner we all get to the point that we can admit that we are far from perfect, the sooner we can be ready to be used by God. He isn’t looking for perfect people; He’s waiting for ordinary folks like you and me.

I’m a pretty ordinary husband and father . . .

 Of course, ordinary comes in lots of shapes and colors. My wife Debbi and I have been married since 2000, and both of us had been previously married. She is a school administrator and has a work ethic that has been passed down generationally – usually leaves home in the dark, and for at least half the year, comes home in the dark too. We’re praying that as our kids get through college, she can retire and fulfill some of her most intimate dreams.

Debbi and I have five children (Adam, Cameron, Callye, Caleb, and Brandon), two grandsons (William and Ian),” , and three dog-children (Symon, Sombra, and Sophie,). I often say that I love my kids and love my dogs, but there have been days that I liked my dogs more than my kids. That is of course, suggested in jest . . .mostly 🙂 One of our sons has completed college, and the other four kids are still finding their way through that maze. We love Auburn University (Debbi’s alma mater), and Texas A&M University (doesn’t everyone?)

It took a long time for me to understand my job . . .

Professionally, I’ve had the opportunity to experience some fairly diverse “job titles.” I came up as a burgeoning sports journalist, switched to church staff ministry, returned to school to earn two masters degrees, entered the world of private practice, experienced the world of corporate training, founded a Christ-centered residential drug and alcohol rehabilitation center, and enjoyed some more private practice. Oh, on top of that, I have enjoyed the thrill of becoming a teaching chef in my spare time. All of that took a lot of learning, understanding, and energy.

But in 2003 through the benefit of Fellowship of the Sword, a ministry out of Fort Worth, Texas, God showed me what my real job was, and for the first time ever, I really, really “got it.”  He showed me that my real purpose in this life was to first serve Him, and in the outflow of that, to serve my wife, serve my children, and serve anyone else, anywhere else, who exhibited any need, whatsoever.

For a very egocentric person, learning to serve is initially kind of hard. But as the blessings start to roll in, it becomes a joyous lifestyle. It’s not always easy. I’m not always successful (I’m still kind of selfish). But it is one of the highest privileges I enjoy – the calling from God – to serve people – just like He did. If we’re going to develop the character of Jesus, we had better get serving – the sooner the better.

Cooking, singing, golfing, reading, speaking, teaching, and writing . . .

Those are a few of my favorite pastimes outside of “work.” I try to not let those things define who I am, but sometimes the golf thing gets in the way a little bit. And I’m really not that good. But I value my recreation and free time. I love being around people, and meet very few “strangers,” but need “me time” too. I prefer outdoors to indoors, cool weather to hot weather, mountains to the beach, and being active to sitting still. I have traveled the world, and want to find new places, and visit the previous ones again. You could say I was born with a sense of wanderlust.

I want to encourage you . . .

 This blog may have themes but the desire to write it, and the commitment to maintain it is about one thing more than any other. If through the blog, you can be encouraged, recharged, reminded, uplifted, motivated, or if you can just relate to something you read, I will sleep well and know that God has used something – as benign as it may seem on the surface, to help you move forward in understanding who you are, and what your purpose ultimately is.

Life was intended to be dynamic – not static. One of my good friends Ricky Bobby once said, “If you ain’t first, you’re last.” Although there may be some detractors to the actual truth (or benefit) of that statement, don’t you want to live your life progressing? I don’t want to sit around and wish I was getting better at what I do, or who I am.I was born to pursue – to improve – to invent – to move forward. When it’s all said and done, I’d like to know that I ran after God, rather than for Him to have had to continually pursue me.

We’ll all be challenged . . .

For me, writing is sometimes as much about me as it is about you. My “bag of tricks” comes as much from my own experiences as it does anything I’ve learned from a textbook. I don’t know about you (actually I do but certainly can’t speak for you), but the things I have learned in this life have typically come from challenging circumstances, mistakes I’ve chosen to make, mistakes I’ve unintentionally made, places I shouldn’t have been, and a myriad of other mostly-painful experiences. I think we’re a lot alike.

And I think we’re about to find out.

As always my friends . . .

FINISH WELL!

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