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If you’re not aware of it yet, the University of California is considering dropping SAT and ACT testing from their college admission process, citing that requiring the tests is discriminatory toward those who don’t test well, and those without the means to purchase pricey study programs. (LA Times 10/2/19)
Their comments alone are where the discrimination lies. They are first telling students who do just fine testing that their academic achievements for the past 12+ years don’t matter beyond high school graduation. You will be thrown in the pool with anyone and everyone that wants to apply and be chosen in some other manner. Maybe a lottery?
Then they are sending the message to students at large, that achievement and pushing their own learning process farther and farther is really of no value either. It won’t affect your ability to apply for college, so why even bother?
If you have worked in the educational community in the past decade you know this is true. Today’s student, as a rule, is not motivated by the value of knowledge and excellence. Even in AP and Pre-AP environments, many students are perfectly happy to pass, and not at all concerned about doing their best, or making honor rolls. That by itself sort of defiles the concept of Advanced Placement opportunities.
Cal’s decision will likely be a precursor for the choices many large American universities make regarding pre-admission testing. Making the wrong one will be the very epitome of the “You can’t put the genie back in the bottle,” theory.
This is like turning the high jump at a track meet into a limbo competition on the beach.
I’m just sayin’
Have you ever wondered what it would be like to fall into a long, long sleep only to awaken and not recognize your surroundings? If you had been in a medically induced sleep in let’s say – 1980, and were to awaken almost 40 years later, what would the wonders be? The shock? The surprise? The horrors?
Of course there is no “normal” waking up after that amount of time, but imagine for a moment that there could be. The advances in technology alone would be enough to transfix that person. It’s hard to even imagine the societal changes. Those of us in our fifth decade may have seen the greatest 40 years of change our country has ever known. We’ve lived through those years of imagined sleep. Now we find ourselves as the beneficiaries of all that transition, as well as being answerable to the chaos.
At 57, I consider myself old enough to have observed and probably taken part in the transformation of a society, both good and bad. In just two generations I have seen the explosion of mechanization, computerization, and animation in everyday American life. On the other hand though, I fear I have watched before my very eyes, the degeneration of what was once a respectable and honorable union.
And just standing by makes me responsible for it.
I wonder however, as I see the carnage left by corruption and blatant disdain for order and respect, if it is really so new. Or has it been hiding – waiting – ready to pounce upon finding an excuse to justify itself and warrant its Godless presence?
Don’t mistake my questions for ignorance. I’m damn mad about it. It’s one thing for someone else to come up from behind and take down someone else’s pants. It’s something completely antithetical however, to pull down your own trousers, bend over, and with intent, show your shiny backside to the entire world.
I, along with you have watched the shameless actions of some New Yorkers as they douse police officers with water, friends all around, cheerleading these offensive and technically illegal actions. When did this become acceptable? The Law of Diminishing Returns applied, says that once these behaviors become happenstance, it will require a greater risk or thrill to satisfy those who feel the need to disrespect and degrade the men and women that are simply doing their jobs. Who knows what they’ll add to the water next time?
One of my internet feeds this morning yielded video of a man being detained by a state trooper after being stopped for going 101 miles per hour in his car. The officer, doing his duty, makes the man come to the back of the car (while his female passenger is videoing). The man is not compliant, saying he has done nothing wrong, and refuses the officers directives. The officer is now forced into handcuff the man for resisting arrest along with the traffic violation. The whole time, he and his woman passenger are screaming at the officer because “He didn’t do anything wrong!” When backup arrives, the man is then treated with force and he still resists while the woman goes bananas.
The act is bad enough. But the comments from individuals who have watched the video are simply repugnant. Although there is some support for the officer, the vast majority of the comments reflect encouragement for the arrested man to sue, and even more disgusting – turn the circumstances into a racial issue. The man was driving 100 mph. Should be end of story. But it’s not.
The behaviors of many in our nation are beyond unacceptable. Their blatant disrespect for both authority and patriotism should make every other American embarrassed and ashamed. This is our country – our union – our family. Like it or not, this aberrant ideal reflects on us all, and if you’re not pissed about it, you should be.
A couple of weeks back three young male athletes attended a national presidential debate. They were invited by one of the candidates that was participating in the debate. Why did these three young men stand out to receive such an invitation? They were highlighted by the media for “taking the knee” during the playing of our national anthem prior to a high school football game. Of course – they are just kids. They likely had no idea the implications of the choice they made, or even why it was important. They were simply emulating the actions of a professional athlete whose initial reasoning for kneeling during the anthem has long since past, and the real basis behind it has been revealed. But now, like the creator of this “movement,” they are celebrities. He needs to be victimized by every part of American history, and due to his visibility, American kids are finding it convenient – and popular – to do the same.
Believe it, one of the most precarious environments in our country right now is public school – its hallways and classrooms. And the person walking the tightrope every second of every school day is the teacher. Many students are waiting – cameras at the ready – for one conflict – one slip up – and hopefully – another video of criminally acceptable behavior to go viral.
Listen. The worst part of all of this is the way it is all being excused – explained away. According to them, there are viable reasons for adults and adolescents alike to behave this way. It’s not their fault! It’s either the economy, the condition of the city, bad teachers, poor community leaders, and best of all – yes – our president. EVERYTHING, it seems, is “Because of Trump.” This extends from the smallest neighborhood to the highest positions in the government of our country. And it’s a shame.
Having to make everything you do the fault of someone else is bogus, lazy, and cowardly. Being a victim doesn’t strengthen your position, it weakens it. Criminal behavior or the violation of rules does not help you gain ground, it ensures that you lose it. Intentional and blatant disrespect of authorities doesn’t elevate your status, it makes you the smallest, dumbest fool in the room.
The world is watching, people. And they’re laughing at America. They should. You and I would too if we were in their positions. The idea that our Republic is a stable union worthy of replicating is a frightening one right now.
I’m just sayin’
Since most school districts across the nation are in the process of starting a new school year, maybe it’s a good time to shout out an encouragement to the parents of the kiddos donning all those new backpacks. In my time as a public school educator it has astonished me how much this part of their education they take for granted. I wondered if my generation did the same thing, and deduced that indeed we did. There were differences however – differences in perspective, in effort, and in ignorance.
Don’t flinch or raise your eyebrows at the “I” word. It’s unfortunate that people over generations, have reduced such a resourceful word to a – well – ignorant style of insult, when in fact it has a very simple and useful meaning. (That simply means that ignorant is a word people use when they don’t know what else to say) Look it up if you want to, but at the end of the day, to be ignorant simply means that one doesn’t know much (if anything) about a particular thing.
If you want to get real and raw about ignorance, we’re all way more ignorant than we are informed. We know a lot! But our collective intellect and knowledge is so small it’s harder to find than Waldo or Carmen San Diego. That’s not meant to be an insult, but a reminder of how important it is to share what we know. We know a lot of truth and consequences regarding the power of education. We simply have to start teaching our children about it.
Every day right now we’re being bombarded with information (some of it formed out of ignorance) about the possibility of free college for many, most, or all. For now at least, it’s just a campaign promise. It’s a dream for some, a matter of interest for others, and has a very small probability of ever happening in America – or anywhere for that matter. Part of dreaming things into reality requires reality. The sheer dollar cost of sending most 20-somethings to college without having to pay is unimaginable to most of us, and likely unsustainable, regardless of the dream.
Here’s the encouragement. If there is ever a possibility of free college for everyone, what good is it to us as a society if children currently in public schools are ignorant to the value of the education they are currently receiving? In other words, how many parents are making a daily effort to ensure that their children are taking their public education seriously? I doubt there are many parents that don’t have “the talk” with their children when they begin school, or maybe at best, each time they “graduate” to another level of public education. They tell their children that their education is important, and that winners are educated, and that educated people get all the breaks, and that nobody cares about what your degree is in, but they care that you took the time and effort to earn one. But do they make it their daily responsibility to stay on top of something that is so important?
A middle-aged woman and her husband were having a meal together one evening. While they ate, she reminisced about their life as she observed his graying, thinning hair, and the newest wrinkles on his forehead. She became a bit wistful and finally asked, “You do still love me, don’t you?” The man put down his fork, wiped his face with a napkin, looked across the table at his bride, and said slowly, “Honey, I told you when I married you that I loved you. If I change my mind, I’ll be sure to let you know.”
Not making your child’s public education a continuing education experience at home is a mistake that will render many if not most 20-somethings non-college-worthy. A very high percentage of households determine that it is the job of the teacher and the teacher alone, to encourage and cheer and forgive and instill. The professional educator is usually the one expected to carry the load of getting each student across the finish line, just so they can start another race in a few weeks. If a student’s parents aren’t leading this charge, ensuring that their child understands the need to persevere through education, free college is as useless as the “ueue” in queue.
Even if a student carries the flag across the finish line at high school graduation, they need to understand the importance of their public education, and to have developed a work ethic of dogged perseverance during their formative years. Whatever dollars might be provided by the federal government to send a young adult to college will be wasted on many of these students. Not because they are inept, incapable, or stupid, but because they are ignorant.
Educate your student about their education. Pour into them the importance of putting their best effort forward. But do it regularly! It doesn’t require renting a billboard or purchasing advertising time on television. It requires understanding what your child is studying, and keeping up with the rigor of their classroom work. It requires knowing what their assignments are and when they are due. Without that parents do their part in this process, and enlighten their children by example, free college will be a short-lived concept in comparison to other successfully instituted government programs. In order for it to be successful with ignorant students, the education will be diluted and contaminated. The resulting effect on the leadership of free enterprise and governance of the United States of America could be catastrophic.
Educate your child about their education. Don’t be fooled – we’re playing the long game here. It’s a daily and sometimes inconvenient effort to be a great parent. It requires sacrifice and consistency, discipline and consequences. The absence of any of those characteristics is indicative of ignorance.
It also produces more of it. Start this school year with a positive educational experience. After all, it’s up to you!
I’m Just Sayin’
Today I’m asking you to read through the blog with the intention of sharing an experience where you learned something about communication.
A man and woman walked in to my office and took a seat on the sofa. They looked normal enough, and appeared to be respectful of and courteous to one another. After basic introductions and “house cleaning” necessities, I asked the woman if she would explain to me why they had chosen to come for counseling. Like a microwave on high, she instantly set the stage with a diatribe of criticism that was primarily aimed at her fiancé, the man sitting only inches from her. But she never got to finish, because as quickly as she began, the man began loudly defending himself from the arrows she was slinging. The conflict went on for two or three minutes before I held up my hand and asked, “Can we all stop for a minute and bring our conversation down to a helpful level?” Both turned their heads back and simultaneously answered, “Sure.”
After a few more minutes of information gathering on my part, I began talking them through somewhat of a strategy – a course of action, and recommended that one of the first areas attempt to conquer was communication skills. Both the man and the woman turned and looked at one another and she said, “We thought that’s one of the things we did best!” I smiled, breathed in slowly, and explained, “Neither of you appear to have any trouble speaking your mind. But from the small sample of communication I’ve seen between the two of you, I’m telling you that throwing up on one another in a moment of hurt or anger is not effective communication.”
In the coming weeks we waded through the dynamics of effective communication, focusing frequently on respect and resolution. The duo did not, in their course of therapy, master communication completely. But they did make really good strides sharing their hearts and minds with one another with a focus on resolving their problems, rather than winning.
It seemed that one of the primary faults in their communication with one another was that they were trading information with each other, but they weren’t really connecting.
“He who answers before listening- that is his folly and his shame.“Proverbs 18:13
One of the common downfalls in relationships or marriages with any longevity at all is that we lose that connectivity we had when we were “young and in love.” The corporate effort to be an effective team seems to fade away like a sunset sinking below the western horizon. We spill our guts when needed, but otherwise seem to be living separate lives that are on truly different paths.
The longer people are in a relationship, the more comfortable they become with one another. Although that comfort is a nice thing to experience and observe, it often has children. Bad children. The kind that do their best to cut corners and make everything short and easy. The children of comfort can often be apathy, individuation, and maybe most importantly, the loss of connectivity.
Being connected requires intentional effort. Ongoing effort. Unfading, and selfless effort. If that effort is not put forth by both people in a relationship, the likelihood is that one or both are truly going to be connected.
Just not to one another.
People tend to get connected to their work, their hobbies, recreation, friends, and in the worst situations, intimate relationships with members of the opposite sex. Affairs are seldom initially about sex. They’re about communication.
A wife is weary of her husband tuning her out and assaulting her at every turn, so she begins to confide in someone that will listen – sympathize with her plight – tell her she’s right – and offer encouragement that may just be meeting a bigger need in his life at the same time.
There is no possible way to cover the gamut of dynamics needed for truly effective communication in a blog, but there are hundreds and thousands of resources available to us all that can help us begin the journey of communicating in our relationships responsibly, lovingly, and intentionally.
Don’t want to put in the work? Then don’t expect it to get better. Willing to make the sacrifices and put forth the effort to make it better? You have no idea how blessed and fulfilling your friendships, relationships, and marriages can be.
Remember, true wisdom comes from experience. We can only learn so much from books or observing others. Having found ourselves in places we don’t want to be, and putting forth the genuine effort to correct the problem, provides the fertile soil for wisdom to both be planted, and to grow.
So agree with your BFF, boyfriend or girlfriend, or spouse to go through a “check-up from the neck-up.” What are you learning about your own communication style or skills?
I’m Just Sayin’ . . .
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Today I am changing the name of this publication. It doesn’t matter why. It’s done and there will still be plenty of revolutions to be started, governments to run, feuds to be quelled, wars to be fought, bars to be emptied, bears to be wrestled, fences to be mended, and don’t forget naps. Naps are huge.
Not everyone will like or agree with what is written in these posts, and that’s just fine. You may find yourself surprised at some of the topics, and that’s ok too. I’m inviting you to read with an open mind and interact with your own thoughts and ideas, but most importantly with at least a reasonable amount of respect.
Most of us don’t even know what having an open mind means. A majority of people think that it means being tolerant of someone else’s thoughts or opinions, while silently wishing they and their ideas would take a long walk off a short pier. Being open minded means:
- Accepting that another person’s ideas are important to them, and being respectful of that
- Truly listening and absorbing the content and context of someone else’s opinion (where they’re coming from)
- A willingness to compare and contrast your view of things with those of others (are we really that far apart?)
- A respectful interaction that is not born out of a need to convert everyone that disagrees with you
- The willingness to change your mind
Two things we just don’t see enough of these days are open minds and respect. If you want to see them, you’re probably going to have to make them happen yourself. In other words, don’t seek those values from places like the media. You will not find them there. It’s hard to even think of a place one can go and be safe from the tsunami of anger and hate that has permeated our society. Neutrality and objectivity are currently on the “endangered” list. Virtually extinct.
There’ll be at least a semblance of decorum if you choose to participate and interact. If we can all work together to keep the “exercise” to a minimum (see graphic), there can be productive discussion that is both entertaining and educational. I choose to learn and laugh – simultaneously.
To me, there are two different connotations to the phrase, I’m Just Sayin’. The first (and how I intend it to be used) is just what it says. Kind of like “I’m just talkin’,” or “I’m just sharin’.” It’s a statement of fact that relates only to my current state of mind and what comes out as a result.
The second interpretation of I’m Just Sayin’ is the kind that makes me want to deliver a high five – with a chair – in the face. It’s akin to someone in a conversation saying, “With all due respect . . . ,” or “No offense, but . . .” You dang well know there is some disrespect and offense riding in directly behind those cowardly statements – unless you’re talking to a superior officer. Then it’s cool.
But to slam somebody, tell a half-truth, gossip, fill in blanks you don’t know, or make threats followed by “I’m just sayin’,” is a direct fumble of the accountability ball and should be followed by a penalty or fine or something physically painful. It needs to be significant though, because in our lifetimes integrity has taken a beating. When you can say what you want, when you want, at who you want under the cover of the internet, one tends to lose control of their good character. Harmful words are one of the easiest ways to try to make yourself look important or sassy. What it does though, is make you look stupid – especially when calling someone else a name is the most intelligent thing you can come up with. I’m just sayin’!
I know, I know, it’s hard to encourage people to be nice when the leaders of the free world are up in Washington trying to bludgeon one another to death in the all-time name-calling Iron Person Challenge. What a joke. They’ve forgotten what it means to embody the values of their country. By the same token, we the citizens of this country need to see that those positive values are re-introduced, because God help us – as it stands – the United States of America is not indivisible, with liberty and justice for all.
I’m just sayin’.
If you haven’t done it you’ve likely seen it. It’s the team-building activity called “Trust Fall.” Someone stands on a platform with their back to their team. With arms crossed over their chest, they count down and while remaining as stiff as a board, slowly begin falling backward. The team is awaiting the fall. With their collective arms, they catch the individual and spare them the injury of falling needlessly to the floor.
Trusting others to catch our life-falls isn’t natural. It has to be taught and learned. Instinct must be betrayed – logic denied – fear unlearned. Some either inherited or have developed incredibly powerful strands of independence DNA. In those cases, trusting others to catch them when they fall, fail, or otherwise flounder in life is about as likely as putting a saddle on the wind.
As time passes, most of us do learn to trust – at least in part. Sometimes we’re forced into it in order to survive, and then occasionally we figure out it’s in our best interest, and allow others to step up and give us what we cannot provide for ourselves. An inevitable challenge to our collective trust will affect us all when our children and our children’s offspring become those to whom our nation looks to for leadership.
While reading from a blog source to which I subscribe, one of the titles stopped me in my tracks. It read, The Teens Will Save Us (Dina Leygerman). With such a title, I had no choice but to read it. As I read through the article I was looking forward to the final word, the main point of her story. When I got there I was stunned. Here is the final paragraph:
“Teenagers will save us. So, just like Emma Gonzalez, my students did not back down nor conform. They fought for their rights. They won. And, adults can learn a lot from the teens of this generation. While the adults are complacent, jaded, and disparaged, teenagers are ignited, spirited, and take no prisoners. Do not squander their fight; they really are our future. Do not call them entitled; that entitlement is their drive and their passion. Do not get in their way: they will crush you. Foster their rebellion. They are our best allies.“Diana Leygerman
I had to go back and read the paragraph several times to ensure my understanding of the writer’s sentiment. Once satisfied, I came to my own conclusion. I couldn’t possibly disagree more.
Before moving on please understand that I am 100% invested in championing today’s teens toward reaching for and achieving their best selves. There are some huge holes however, in this blog’s conclusion, and someone has to talk about what is being observed. If it had been written 20 years ago I might have jumped onboard. In 2019 I assure you there are quite a few directions our kids are going that you don’t want to see fulfilled. If these gain too much momentum it’s a good bet we will be crushed anyway.
It’s actually quite difficult to separate the behaviors I and many other educators and mental health professionals have observed in the past few years. You don’t have to look far to see the hundreds of thousands of articles and even books written about millennials and their sense of entitlement. Many of them are now parents. Want to wager a guess as to what they’re passing along to their kids?
This entitleitis, I believe, has paved the way for another huge, maybe even bigger complication. It is called victimitis, and although it’s not necessarily new, it is enjoying a resurgence for the ages. It seems that huge numbers of Americans are looking for new and more excessive ways to be victimized. The mere sense of discomfort has given rise to hypersensitivity and taking offense at almost anything or anyone, and nobody is safe from having the finger pointed at them.
If a child is uncomfortable with, or not interested in a subject at school, it is not unusual for him to have every expectation that the teacher will just leave him alone. If there is a struggle to understand a new topic, idea, or subject, there is a growing likelihood that he will simply give up. Simply put, the work ethic just isn’t there. Grades aren’t nearly as important to a majority of students, and their overshadowing parents are feeding them from this poison apple.
One of the greatest challenges to these dilemmas is, the public education system has also bent to the will of the hypersensitive public (including the children). Many parents regularly threaten teachers. Educators are told by these parents that they don’t know what they’re doing and should consider another line of work. This is before taking the time to come to school for a parent/teacher conference. They threaten everything from “meeting behind the school” to court actions. School districts, in order to avoid anything of this nature are afraid of what parents will do. This has given way to a gradual loosening of expectations of students both behaviorally and academically.
The states have in turn, followed federal mandates, and lowered their bars to ensure that every student passes to the next grade in order to preserve their self-esteem. I never saw one student held back during my time as a public school teacher. Knowing there were students that never put forth an ounce of real effort, their “diplomas,” if they stay in school, will share the worth of a paper towel.
Yes, teenagers will fight for their rights. To a point, it is a good thing to let them learn to advocate, but not unbridled or without overwatch. Literally all kids are a long way from understanding what their “rights” really are. The cure for anything they don’t like becomes their “right,” and a clarion call to the offended masses. The unwillingness to give respect to adults – their own parents, and teachers alike – could easily lead to anarchy.
When the focus again shifts to reading, mathematics, history, writing, and learning to be a good person while children and teens are still in their formative years, we will see a return to accountability and respect. Until then, they’re an angry pack looking for a place to spend their hypersensitive emotions. As long as their primary focus is about them and their rights those of us who have gone before might be in for a rough landing in this Trust Fall. Seeing to the needs of others before you satisfy your own takes time to develop. If too many “rights” are given before selflessness is learned, there will be a sad, dire price to pay.
I own a brain. Just one, and it’s mine. I am accountable for the ideas it gives me, and how I choose to act on them. This is not always such a great deal for me. I’d be a little more optimistic but my brain, of late, has begun to lag in its response time to my calls. Sometimes it doesn’t show up at all, and this has become a problem. I’ve inquired about trading it for a later model, but it tells me I should be content with what I have. You never know what you’re going to get when you go pre-owned.
While my brain was listening to a radio program earlier this week, the host said, “They just can’t help it.” My brain locked onto the oft-heard statement and then did what it sometimes does. It didn’t consider the context of the sentence, but simply wondered where the phrase originated. That was good because it’s always a great idea to exercise your thinking organ. It was also not so good because I couldn’t get it off my mind.
The simplest explanation I could develop was that it had to first be knocked back a level. It likely didn’t start as a corporate justification, but a personal one. Sometime, somewhere, someone screwed up. Once the mistake was discovered, the “Eve” of excuses uttered the four miserable words that have at one time or another haunted us all, “I can’t help it.” What do those words really mean?
The first word “I” reflects individual participation, if not accountability. When you add the next word, you then may have the most powerful two-word combination of any generation. “I can’t,” has become not just one of a few choices when faced with challenges, it is now the default choice. “I can’t,” is so prevalent in our youth that school districts require posters in every classroom that provide alternative statements to “I can’t,” or “I don’t know.”
In journalist Katie Couric’s book The Best Advice I Ever Got, actor Matthew McConaughey – along with dozens of other very interesting people – weighed in on the book title’s topic. He wrote, “Growing up, my dad got mad at me for only two reasons: if I told a lie or if I said ‘I can’t.”‘ McConaughey went on to describe a moment from his childhood when his father helped him to understand that instead of saying “I can’t,” one might be better served by saying, “I was just having trouble.” His father said:
“Look, don’t ever say you can’t do something. That means there’s absolutely no way to do it. If you can’t do something, how are you ever gonna fix something? How are you gonna figure the problem out? How are you gonna ask for help? You’re gonna have trouble doing a lot of things in life, but they can be done. If you say ‘I can’t,’ that means there is no solution, you’ve given up, you’ve quit.”
McConaughey went on to say that this advice has helped him solve problems, work harder, and not feel so helpless in difficult times.
At last check, Mr. McConaughey was getting by just fine.
Throw in the last two words, “help it,” and you have a complete sentence; and almost always, a lie. Everyone knows what it means to help, and when you look at this phrase literally, there is a very ugly truth in it.
Whatever I cannot do or avoid doing is a stronger force than my emotions, my thinking, my experiences, and my resolve. That decision overpowers all of these characteristics in me. I am helpless before it. Now plug what you “can’t help” into this sentence:
____________________ is more overpowering to me than my good sense, and everything I know that is better for me. Have you considered that you’re giving the issue more control than you are to God?
What is it for you? It could be anything from ice cream to stealing from your employer – or worse. But seeing it written in front of you may be a sobering declaration. It is also a lie. The hard truth is, whatever we gain from what we “can’t help,” is more attractive to us than putting forth the effort to overcome it. Yep, we’re lazy, and the current trend in your neck of the woods and mine is not one any of us want to know about.
“I can’t help it,” kind of goes along with “I’m only human.” This one has always baffled me. Seriously? Only human? Just think of all the things that means. Go deep, and realize how many parts of being human are so super-sized compared to any other civilization we know of. Have you ever heard someone say, “Don’t punish the dog for doing what dogs do?” There are a lot of applications for that statement – and dogs. But not for us. Our capabilities so far overshadow anyone or anything known to us in the universe. Saying you’re only human is not only weak and lazy, it’s stupid. We are human, and we can help it. Maybe we should celebrate those portrayals of us instead of using them as excuses!
Besides, in addition to all of the wonderful things our minds can do, don’t forget that being “only human” comes with the delightful, first-rate use of opposable thumbs. Now that gets my brain going.
What do YOU think? (Comments go below!)
Wherever you go, there you are. That means you are here (there to me), and I am here (there to you). So your here and my here aren’t the same here. But we’re all here and there are a ton of things to which we have been corporately entrusted, regardless of which here-space we might occupy. (Grammarly is having a field day with this.)
The “wherever you go” statement typically refers to a person that runs from his problems in the hopes that a new start in a new place will keep those problems at bay. It rarely works out that way, as most of our problems are brought on by our own selves. Therefore wherever we go, we seem to cart all that baggage with us. Why would any of us do a thing like that?
All that being said, there is no possible way we could ever – even working together – come up with all the answers to the question of “How did we get here?” The question as it is represents a huge box and I’m asking you to take the challenge with me to unpack all the items we can find in it. There will be plenty for all of us, and unless I am mistaken, the contents of the box work like an Artesian spring. We can take whatever we want from it, but what we remove will be quickly replaced by something else.
Truly there is no end to the challenges that continually arise in 21st century life, and there is no shortage of those that have been packed in from decades ago. It would be a huge surprise to know that anyone would disagree with the statement, “Our world is changing more, and at a more rapid pace than we have ever experienced.” The speed itself should be enough to make us gasp, but we seem to like it so much that we are blind to the consequences of it.
On January 9, 2007, Steve Jobs announced the advent of the first iPhone at the MacWorld Convention. About six months later, on June 29, 2007, the first iPhones were released for public consumption. Now in 2019, it is difficult to find many people over the age of 13 without a smartphone of some kind. Since that time there have been other new offerings such as smartphone addiction disorder, smartphone anxiety disorder, smartphone use disorder, and smartphone sleep disorder. In addition to those disorders, we are now aware of other physical problems such as tech-neck, trigger thumb, cell phone elbow, text claw, and others.
There are additional eye problems and we’ve all seen videos of people walking into poles or walls while texting, and it seems there are countless deaths caused by texting while driving. In just over a decade the smartphone it seems has taken over our lives. A man recalled disciplining his then 16-year-old daughter for a repeat offense. Having already been in trouble once, there was no doubt there would be significant consequences the second time around. The father told his daughter to give him her smartphone for the next two weeks. The daughter’s eyes filled with tears and she begged her father, “No! Please take my car instead! Please!”
How did we get here?
Smartphones are just one example, and an easy target when it comes to how technology – however convenient – has not always proven to be the best thing for us as human beings. The bigger picture regarding our smart technology is the price that is being paid in spades in the areas of social interaction and basic communication skills. Don’t think this just applies to children and adolescents. But know that for this population, the cost is already devastating, and unchecked will only get worse.
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Congress shall make no law respecting an establishment of religion, or prohibiting the free exercise thereof; or abridging the freedom of speech, or of the press; or the right of the people peaceably to assemble, and to petition the Government for a redress of grievances. (1st Amendment, United States Constitution)
Two days before many of us celebrated our nation’s birthday and the freedom it represents, one of the duly elected members of the United States House of Representatives gave us a clown show that has caused many to wonder how or why she was ever elected in the first place.
Congresswoman Frederica Wilson of Florida provided the most entertaining moment of a week filled with accusations, innuendo, and perhaps spin, regarding conditions in the immigrant detention centers that are manned by the United States Border Patrol. Wilson led a delegation of congressional representatives through the facility in Homestead, Florida and following their tour, said this. “Those people who are online making fun of members of Congress are a disgrace and there is no need for anyone to think that is unacceptable (sic),” Wilson said during a press conference. “We are going to shut them down and work with whoever it is to shut them down, and they should be prosecuted.”
Regardless of political affiliation or opinions on current affairs, the Congresswoman from Florida displayed an amazing ignorance of our Constitution and its very first amendment, which was ratified in 1791, four years after the creation of the original supreme law of the United States.
This is not the first time that elected members of the U.S. Congress have recently given us reason to marvel at the electoral process, and question how it has gotten to the place it is. The answer to the question is perhaps quite simple. United States citizens have, rather than electing qualified candidates, chosen to support activists instead. Washington Post columnist Megan McArdle articulated this when she wrote (regarding Alexandria Ocasio-Cortez), “If she weren’t a comely and personable young woman with a flair for left-wing organizing, Ocasio-Cortez wouldn’t be a member of Congress, and no one would care whether she spouted nonsense.”
There is more, of course, but the point has been made. Elections and congressional action seem to no longer be about constituents (the will of the people), but more about power, money, and party politics. We can’t even pretend this is something new; it’s been part of the game since politics became politics. It just seems that right now, this kind of “representation” has become the rule rather than the exception.
There is however, a new focus since 2016, the destruction of the office of POTUS. There are those at the highest and most powerful levels of government who have leveled their focus on ensuring that Donald Trump fails. One would appear unenlightened if he were to suggest the President and his choices are white as snow, but there seems to be little if any consideration to the blowback that would occur were POTUS dethroned, especially while in office.
The point is this. You and I, representatives of Congress, our children, and the President of the United States simply need to give more consideration to our words and actions, and be accountable for them. Personal accountability, it seems, is no longer considered a moral attribute, but a low-level chore that can be taken care of at a later time. History has shown us that when there are no consequences for our choices of words or actions, social and political chaos evolves.
We need a grassroots campaign that will lead to a change in the mindset and behavior of our country’s leaders. We can’t depend on it happening on Capitol Hill. It has to start in us.
When the full-time effort of our lawmakers becomes spewing hate and vitral rather than focusing on the will of their constituents, the outflow looks eerily similar. Regular people – even children – begin to mimic both the rhetoric and the behaviors. But when the leaders say things like, “I think that there’s a lot of people more concerned about being precisely, factually, and semantically correct than about being morally right,” (Alexandria Ocasio-Cortez), it is easy to see that we have a long, long way to go.